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Looking’s Not Necessarily OK

Good morning, Father. Thank You for the solid night’s sleep. I would ask for Your presence as the day unfolds. May I help Karen get set for the morning in that I will be gone for a few hours – may I love her as You do. May You be a palpable presence in our services today. May we all be attentive to what You would have to say to each of us individually and may we be compelled to act upon Your word. Amen.

Matthew 5:27-30 (<<click the green)

Several years ago I worked with another believer and on more than one occasion, he was married by the way, I heard him say in regards to admiring beautiful women, “It’s OK to look, just don’t touch.” It bothered me then and it bothers me now.

Sex is one of the most rewarding, yet at the same time, most difficult things with which to deal. It is most assuredly a gift from God. When we act on it in a proper setting it brings us great joy. But outside of that proper setting, it brings way more grief than it will bring satisfaction. And not just for the parties involved – so many others are impacted when lines are crossed.

So, as long as we don’t physically act, it’s alright to have an active fantasy life, right? Uh…no. Lord, we cannot twist Your words as recorded by Matthew any way in which to justify doing so.

“But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” v28

To say that our world is full of temptation is a great understatement! We can’t walk past a magazine rack or turn on a TV without being bombarded by lasciviousness (showing a desire for, or unseemly interest in, sex)! Lord, help us!

The only way we can stand, Lord Jesus, is to stand with You. Only You can help us be what You call us to be. On our own, we are weak and fallible. I fall into You mighty arms. Help me to be the man that You need me to be in this fallen world. Amen.

Nov 12th, Sun, 6:34 am

Turn Away

Once again a new day begins, pristine, a clean slate. The past is past and only possibilities lie ahead. Father, together let us continue to build upon the foundation You have set. May I follow You this day. Use me to impact my world for You. As Your Word teaches us to pray, “Your kingdom come, Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” Amen.

Revelation 2:20-23 (<<click green)

Lord, in this passage “Jezebel” is guilty of encouraging believers to take part in a lifestyle that is in opposition to Your will. She extolled “sexual sin” and eating “food offered to idols”.

In and of themselves are sex and food evil? No, of course not! Both are gifts from You! Where the trouble arises is when we take these gifts and use them outside the parameters which You have set. That is the way it is with all sin. It is when the “ME” factor takes control. It is when “I” want to do it “MY” way.

Our acts of sin are bad enough but we compile our sin when we refuse to “turn away from [our] immorality.” The applicable word here is “repent.” I understand repentance as an about face – we turn from sin and turn to God. It doesn’t do any good to just try to stop sinning. It has a nasty tendency to lure us back in. And to just stop sinning does take care of the stains we have incurred from sins we have committed. Turning to God, admitting our sin and seeking His forgiveness, takes care of the sin – it is totally eradicated! And then we can live in the power of our relationship with Him to ward off yielding to those sins again.

Lord, thank You for Your everlasting love. You are truly long-suffering. Help me this day to stand strong against whatever sins would cross my path. My strength is not sufficient – but Yours surely is! Amen.

July 18th, Tues, 6:21 am

Nobody Tellin’ Me What to Do!

Father, my mind is already rolling this morning and I need to bring it to a stop. The things of this world are nothing compared to what You have for me. I’m sorry for trekking off. Help me to give my full attention to You.

Titus 3:3 (<<click here)

It really makes no sense, Lord, that much of humanity is all about doing what we want when we want. “Ain’t gonna be nobody tellin’ me what to do!” But in reality we are all enslaved to something. We may say we are “free” to choose but all we are really doing is choosing what Master to serve. Will it be money? Or power? Or sex? Or alcohol? Or acceptance? Or religion? Yes…we may choose but what we choose ultimately puts our lives-  our minds – in bondage.

Paul says it is like it is, “Once we, too, were foolish and disobedient. We were misled and became slaves to many lusts and pleasures.” We don’t want to admit it but we have way less freedom than we think we do. Each of us is controlled by something. And most of those things are not easily set aside.

Lord, I know that what Paul writes next provides the answer to this dilemma but I want to stop here and acknowledge that I am no exception. There are things to which I have been enslaved in my past. And to this day those things call out to me, enticing me, with empty promises. I want to address it more fully later but I must speak of it now as well! Lord, without You, I am helpless – I would yield to those things in a heartbeat. Help me to stay close by Your side. Continue to help me to shoot down those thoughts before they even come close to bearing fruit. All the praise for victory goes to You!

Feb 2nd, Tues, 6:30 am

Swept Under the Rug

Father, I am so sorry that I allow little things to build up to the point that I am spiritually off balance and fall. I know You are there for me. Early on I listen closely and swat down even the slightest thought that would lure me from You. Then over time my swat time lags, they I don’t swat at all – my indiscretions are small and seemingly insignificant…but over time they multiply and begin to pile up. Why I don’t just stop and call for Your help to sweep them all out, I don’t know. That would make sense. I continue to sweep my random thoughts under the rug. But over time there are more and more of them and some are bigger than others. I try to ignore them but that rug starts to get lumpy – so much so that I stumble on occasion – I don’t fall mind You, I just stumble. And I continue on in my self-imposed “ignorance.” Again, why don’t I just stop and ask for Your help? It’s not difficult. I know You want me to. But I convince myself that I can handle it. I’m good. I’ve got it under control…but I don’t. And You watch as more and more gets thrown under the rug, calling for me to allow You to help me but I’m distracted – focused on all kinds of things and not the matters that really matter. And then it happens, it’s just too much, I stumble…I try to keep my balance but I fall. Maybe I don’t fall as hard as I have in the past but I still fall – flat on my face. And why? It makes no sense! It is all my fault… I have no one else to blame…

But You are still there. You have not forsaken me. You have not given up on me. I yield once again (for the gazillionth time?) to Your loving hand. You reach down and help me up. I consent to pulling back the rug and am swept clear once more.

Thank You, Lord, for Your patience. Thank You for Your unfathomable love. Where would I be without Your mercy. I fall into Your mighty arms. I pray that You will help me. I am stronger than I once was but I willingly acknowledge that I am utterly incapable of anything close to success on my own. I am dependent upon You. Help me to respond to Your guidance. Help me to yield to You. Help me to sweep things out of my life and not under the rug.

It’s not easy writing these things down, knowing someone else is going to read them. But I know that we all have things that we sweep under our own rugs – things we battle against but sometimes they pile up. Maybe its gossip, or laziness, or food or sex or backbiting or selfishness or self-loathing… the list goes on but Christ is there – more than willing and more than able to help us. All we must do is to call out and He is there. He is for me… and he is for you, too.

Nov 12th, Fri, 5:00 am

SEX!!!!!

Another beautiful day, all thanks to You, Father! May I use the time given to me, to do and say and be what You would give You the most glory! For You alone are worthy, praise Your holy name!

I Thessalonians 4:1-8 (<<click here)

Lord, today’s passage is totally pertinent in the world in which I find myself. In our downfall we are a sex driven society and it is nigh impossible to not be impacted by it. TV, internet, magazines, email, music, Facebook, movies, our attire – EVERYTHING is sex laden! It is very difficult for me and most everyone else to not be effected in some way! But you call us to be HOLY, and being holy means to be set apart. Being “like You” means being “different from the world.” (biblehub.com)

Lord, following You means I want to be like You! You are holy, so I am to be holy. Your Word clearly calls us to sexual purity. I am called to love You with all of my heart, soul, strength and mind, and to love others as I love myself (Luke 10:27). To be very clear here this is to be Your definition of love not the world’s. So if I am to fulfill the command to love I will not do anything that would make me hurt someone else from a sexual perspective. Obviously, I will take no physical action sexually but even thinking sexual thoughts is harmful outside the context of my marital relationship. It is detrimental to me and if it became known to Karen or any other party to whom I am having sexual thoughts, it would be detrimental to them as well. Detrimental does not equal love.

Lord, the culture in which I live bucks this like crazy but sex outside of a marital relationship is sin! This is the only context in which we can be 100% committed and that is to our husband or wife. Marriage is a covenantal relationship – to love (by Your definition) till “death us do part.” I know it’s not easy but it’s the way it is supposed to be! Anything else and in any other context, and we are outside of Your will…no matter how solid a relationship is.

Lord, protect our marriages – keep them pure. Help us to love each other as You have called us to. Lord, help those outside of marital relationships to be pure and to avoid the pitfalls of sexual interaction. For those who have not crossed that line – keep them strong and help them wait. For those who have fallen, give them a fresh start, a clean slate as they seek Your love and forgiveness. Help us all, all followers of You, to be set apart – to be different from the world!

July 23rd, Thurs, 7:17 am