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Looking’s Not Necessarily OK

Good morning, Father. Thank You for the solid night’s sleep. I would ask for Your presence as the day unfolds. May I help Karen get set for the morning in that I will be gone for a few hours – may I love her as You do. May You be a palpable presence in our services today. May we all be attentive to what You would have to say to each of us individually and may we be compelled to act upon Your word. Amen.

Matthew 5:27-30 (<<click the green)

Several years ago I worked with another believer and on more than one occasion, he was married by the way, I heard him say in regards to admiring beautiful women, “It’s OK to look, just don’t touch.” It bothered me then and it bothers me now.

Sex is one of the most rewarding, yet at the same time, most difficult things with which to deal. It is most assuredly a gift from God. When we act on it in a proper setting it brings us great joy. But outside of that proper setting, it brings way more grief than it will bring satisfaction. And not just for the parties involved – so many others are impacted when lines are crossed.

So, as long as we don’t physically act, it’s alright to have an active fantasy life, right? Uh…no. Lord, we cannot twist Your words as recorded by Matthew any way in which to justify doing so.

“But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” v28

To say that our world is full of temptation is a great understatement! We can’t walk past a magazine rack or turn on a TV without being bombarded by lasciviousness (showing a desire for, or unseemly interest in, sex)! Lord, help us!

The only way we can stand, Lord Jesus, is to stand with You. Only You can help us be what You call us to be. On our own, we are weak and fallible. I fall into You mighty arms. Help me to be the man that You need me to be in this fallen world. Amen.

Nov 12th, Sun, 6:34 am

Levels of “Badness”?

Father, beyond any shadow of a doubt I know I am cherished and loved. But I also realize that I have done nothing to earn that from You. You first loved me before I even knew to love You back. My sin separated me from You but because of the sacrifice of Your only beloved Son and because I accept Your forgiveness, I can come into Your presence and I can live a life of victory over sin and death! Praise Your holy Name!

James 2:10-11 (<<click here)

Why is it, Lord, that we have this bad habit of labeling sins, putting them on levels of “badness”? We have this tendency to think, My sins are not as bad as your sins!” Sin is sin. And as this passage proclaims, if you’ve broken one law it’s the same as breaking them all. There are not degrees of wickedness.

Jesus, You even said this while you lived amongst us. Matthew 5:21-22 tells us, “You must not murder. If you commit murder, you are subject to judgment. But I say, if you are even angry with someone, you are subject to judgment.” Later in verses 27 and 28, You equate looking at someone with lust with adultery. If we break one law we’ve broken them all.

Now we’re not to just throw up our hands and give up. Through You, we can be victorious! But, as I said earlier, we have got to stop comparing ourselves to others. Someone else’s sin, no matter how heinous, is in no way worse than mine. Sin is sin. There is no such thing as little sins and big sins. Hating others because they are really bad sinners makes us guilty of sin as well (hate as an expression of our anger = murder).

Lord Jesus, help me to deal with my sin. Help me not to condemn others but, instead, to pray for them that they may turn to you as well.

Aug 24th, Wed, 7:18 am

Fidelity

Father, the next several days are going to be a challenge. We are so excited that Massey is home for a few days! But because we want to stay up and talk and do things together it makes getting up more of a challenge. My time with You is of the utmost importance to me so I am determined to be here. Please help me to be wise in what I do when awake so that I will sleep well. Help me to be safe in my travels and to do my best at Kohl’s and in getting ready for worship. Thank You for Your active presence in my life.

I don’t know if the tacos from supper were a contributing factor, Lord, but I sure dreamed last night. I know many times You used dreams in the Bible to communicate messages. My dream was surely disturbing and it may just be a wild, taco induced thing in my brain but I do want to use it as means of staying true to You and the ones I love.

It’s disturbing in that it was sexual in nature. It was not sordid and there are no graphic details to pass along. In my dream I was not married but even then it was like I was looking at myself doing and thinking things and feeling mortified because I am married. For the most part the dream was flirtatious in nature and though I was tempted to pursue things best left alone, I did not yield. The only physical contact was I rubbed the young woman’s back. It was in a group setting and that’s all I did but just that simple contact evoked “feelings.” Later she was in the shower and a clear but subtle invitation had been extended to me but I saw nothing and did nothing for I did not yield. I didn’t even go near her location.

Yuck! I don’t even like writing it down but, Lord, I want it to be an anchor point in our relationship that will shore up another extremely important relationship in my life – my marriage!

The world is replete with sexual promiscuity. Our culture’s mentality is to meet our own needs regardless of how it impacts others. And no matter how much our society glamourizes it, it always impacts others – and many times in hurtful, scarring ways.

I am wholly committed to Karen! Jesus, You are very clear on this topic.

“You have heard the commandment that says, “You must not commit adultery! But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28

I pray every day for the strength and wisdom to abide by Your words, Lord. I do my best to not even linger on pictures of women I see. I strive to avert my eyes while interacting with the public when on many occasions low cut tops and skin tight bottoms want to lure me in.

Lord, help me! Only in You can I stand strong. I am totally dependent on You to get me through and want nothing else than to be utterly faithful to my wife. Amen – so be it!

Mar 11th, Fri, 5:37 am