Love – Look for the Best in Each Other
A profitable day both at work and in the office. Thank You, Father, for the strength and mental ability to accomplish what I have!
1 Corinthians 13:7b (<<click here to read the passage)
Love…believes all things [looking for the best in each one]…
As a part of our personal development training today, my fellow bus drivers and I watched a video about how we, as adults, interact with our students. In the first part, all of the adults – the bus driver, the administrator at the door of the school, and the teachers basically ignored the kids – paying them no mind, or worse, derided them a majority of the time. They rode them constantly about their behavior and how poorly they were doing. The students’ actions were unacceptable, and they left no doubt in the students’ minds about it. There were no smiles, no encouragements, no love…whatsoever.
It drove home the point that students who struggle anyway would be throttled down even more. Their failure in school – and life – was all but assured.
Then, the scenario started back at the beginning. The bus driver called the student by name, acknowledging his presence with a smile and a warm greeting, then sent him with a fist bump to his seat. The administrator enthusiastically greeted each student with a smile and a hug for many of them, stating that she had been looking forward to their arrival. The teachers reacted the same way. This time, it wasn’t all about being quiet, but they encouraged their students to interact constructively with one another. Smiles abounded, encouragement was freely given…and there was love!
Instead of being throttled down, students were lifted up! Those struggling found encouragement on every front, and their success in school – and life – though not guaranteed, was more greatly assured.
As followers of Christ, we are to be eager distributors of love. Some of the people we interact with are definitely not easy to love. Some are literally in our faces, all but assuring themselves that they will get the same in return.
So, what should our responses be in not just difficult situations but all our interactions with others, young and old alike? Love…plain and simple love.
We may argue, “I know that the Bible commands me to love my neighbor as myself, but how am I supposed to do that if I don’t even like them?” Our love supply is limited. It’s weak, too. We don’t have nearly enough, and often, we are less than eager to “waste it” on the less-than-lovable.
Our source for a never-ending reservoir of love? God is that source!
Psalm 103:17 from the Amplified Bible reads,
But the lovingkindness of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting on those who [reverently] fear Him…
His love is on us! We cannot keep it to ourselves! We must give it away in abundant supply! Let your love believe all things, looking for the best in each other!
Jan 2nd, 2024, Tues, 7:29 pm
Love Bears All Things
One last full day of break, thank You, Father, for time with family. Guide my thoughts for my time with You. Amen.
1 Corinthians 13:7a (<<click here to read the passage)
Love bears all things [regardless of what comes]… AMP
One of the most heart-wrenching things in life is where love is lost, where once it bloomed and thrived.
One example from life occurred to a family I knew some years ago. The family is not the same as it once was, in that one member chose self over love. I’m sure that it is not a stand-alone story but one that is too often played in the lives of people across the globe. The characters and circumstances change, but sadly, the outcome is the same. There is always loss and pain when self is chosen over love.
This family included a man, a woman, and several children. Young love was beautiful and plenteous. They did not have wealth, but love was the glue that held them together. The man of the house provided well for his growing family, and things were good…until…
I don’t know what caused their catalyst of change, but change did come. And in this instance, addiction was the result. Pain meds led to addiction, and the man of the house was caught in its never-ending grasp. For a time, he fought valiantly for his freedom…his family. Love fueled the fight; it gave him the edge when many things did not. But little by little, through many battles, self began to gain ground while love began to lose ground.
His beautiful wife stalwartly stood by his side. A warrior in prayer she was, love encompassing all she did. But loss and pain were her constant companions. Until finally, the gauntlet had to be thrown to the ground. A choice had to be made. The ultimatum was given: would love of family be his choice…or love of self? She was readied for battle, but sadly, he was not. He was done, and in his heart, love had surrendered to self. Where once there had been love…now only self reigned – the end…in so many ways.
I don’t know where self led him, but love was her guide, and she and her family carried on, strengthened by that love. God honored her love and multiplied it. And today, she is blessed beyond measure.
Today’s text declares that love bears all things, and it is amplified by the phrase, regardless of what comes.
This mom, though battle-worn, would not give up her love. She did not set it aside because of her pain and loss but grasped it all the more, for she knew that the source of her love, the Lord Himself, would not let her fall. She survived the storm because she was a child of Him who calms the storm.
Lord Jesus, may your blessings continue to fall on this family. May the prodigal who exchanged love for self someday come home. May we all learn that only love, Your love, will carry us through; it will bear all things…regardless of what comes.
Jan 1st, 2024, Mon, 7:43 pm
Happy New Year!
May the Lord direct my steps in the year ahead!
Dec. 31st, 2023, Sun, 7:59 pm
Love Cannot Stand Injustice
Two Jewish girls protesting against child slavery with signs in English and Yiddish, 1909. (Photo/Library of Congress-George Grantham Bain collection)
Another year has come and gone, and here I stand on the cusp of yet another one. Father, continue to use me and help me remain strong in You. May I be Your mouthpiece to those who would hear. Amen.
1 Corinthians 13:6 (<<click here to read the passage)
[Love] does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth [when right and truth prevail]. AMP
In Matthew 5, Jesus speaks of a greater broadness of the Law. We have this nasty habit of being sticklers for the point of the Law and “conveniently” avoiding the rest. “If it doesn’t say I can’t do it, then I’m gonna do it!”
Jesus emphasized that the core of the Law Jesus is love – love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength, and love your neighbor as yourself (Mark 12:30-31, Deuteronomy 6:4-5, Leviticus 19:18). And in Matthew 5 He fleshed out what the Law meant by murder and adultery (Matthew 5:21-22, 28-29) – hate equals murder, lust equals adultery. That’s pretty much in our faces, but we cannot escape His words and limit love to just those two points.
Today’s passage speaks of not rejoicing at injustice but rejoicing with the truth. And I would say that it is far broader than we believe.
Looking up injustice, the Lord brought to mind a quote about doing nothing in the face of injustice being just as bad as taking part in the injustice itself. In searching for that, I found an article on Medium.com entitled 15 Inspirational Quotes About Speaking Up Against Injustice. The Scripture I have shared and the sage words of these individuals can speak for themselves.
“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” ~ Dr Martin Luther King Jr
“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.” ~ Archbishop Desmond Tutu
“We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.” ~ Elie Wiesel
“You can’t be neutral on a moving train.” ~ Howard Zinn
“The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people but the silence over that by the good people.” ~ Dr Martin Luther King Jr
“Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most; that has made it possible for evil to triumph.” ~ Haile Selassie
Go and do what Jesus would do.
Dec 28th, 2023, Thurs, 4:04 pm
Eliminating Historical Encounters
Father, I am grateful for an uncluttered day with family. Thank You for my blessings!
1 Corinthians 13:5c (<<click here to read the passage)
[Love] does not take into account a wrong endured. AMP
I remembered a “funny” joke about a husband saying that his wife would get historical when they were arguing…not hysterical but historical…she would dredge up many things from their past. So, I looked it up, and I’m not kidding; God leads me down some strange paths to get me where He wants me to be… He led me to an online article on a ministry’s website called Knowing Her Sexually.
It stopped me dead in my tracks…
Their blog post was entitled, Does Your Wife Get “Historical”?
First, they stressed that it is not so much that wives are taking into account a wrong endured, but in reality, it’s just how their minds are wired. Karen’s mind is excellent at remembering prices for things, especially groceries. I’m not so good at that. I’m good at remembering the vehicles my work associates drive, so I know who is or who is not at the garage, and I readily recognize them in other places as well (yeah, it’s not a big deal, but it’s how my brain works.)
Wives aren’t getting “historical”; they just store both positive and negative memories related to their relationship with their husbands. So why do they bring up negative memories regularly?
They say that maybe that one incident is negligible, but it rings of patterns we develop. How many times do we find our phones in our hands? It may not be every time we’re together, but it happens often…doesn’t it?
She mentions past incidents as examples to show that she has genuinely noticed this behavior and her concern doesn’t come from out of the blue. She wants to be sure you know that she isn’t just being overly sensitive. She wants you to believe her. She wants you to understand that this is something that bothers her.
Another reason she might bring up negative memories is that she is still hurting. …she may bring it up frequently over the years because she still needs help dealing with the hurt.
She may be hoping for an apology, trying again to feel heard by you, or wanting her experience to be acknowledged in some way.
I’m stopping right there (click on their post title if you’d like to read the rest.)
I think many of us struggle with this in our relationships, myself included. I find myself praying about my relationship with Karen. I love her, and it seems that too often, we don’t see eye to eye, and some things aren’t really addressed. Being a couple for 40 years, it’s easy to take her for granted, not showing her nearly often enough that I love and cherish her. …notice that I didn’t say “tell her.” I need to show her. And I’m not very good at it.
Lord Jesus, help me to remove reasons to take into account a wrong endured. Help me to love her more and to give her more reason to love me, as well.
Dec 27th, 2023, Wed, 8:50 pm